Relationship problems
PLEASE BE AWARE I DO NOT WORK WITH COUPLES ……ONLY individuals.
Why Relationships Hurt—and Why They’re Worth It**
After 30 years of sitting with people as they navigate the most intimate corners of their lives, I’ve come to understand something deeply human: relationships are where we are most wounded, and also where we have the greatest capacity to heal.
Whether it's between partners, family members, or close friends, relationships can bring us incredible joy—but also pain. It’s in connection that we often feel most vulnerable, most exposed. And yet, it's also where we long to be seen, understood, and accepted.
When Love Hurts
When people come to therapy because a relationship is in distress, they are often carrying a great deal of pain. Perhaps communication has broken down. Perhaps trust has been eroded. Sometimes one partner feels invisible, while the other feels under siege. There can be silence where there once was laughter. Or conflict where there once was comfort.
It’s easy to feel like something is wrong with you, or that the relationship is irreparably broken. But I want you to know: struggling in relationships does not mean you're failing. It means you're human. Being close to another person stirs up our deepest fears and longings. Old wounds—some that go back to childhood—can resurface, uninvited. And we don’t always know how to handle them.
Why It Feels So Hard
Many of us weren’t taught how to navigate emotions, set boundaries, or speak up for our needs. Some learned to keep the peace at all costs. Others learned to expect rejection. Some were raised in families where love was inconsistent or conditional. These early experiences shape how we relate to others later in life.
In therapy, one of the most healing steps is recognising that our reactions—our shutdowns, our outbursts, our fears—often make perfect sense in the context of our history. They’re not flaws. They’re strategies we developed to survive. And with support, we can learn new ways of relating—ways that are more aligned with who we are today.
There Is Always Hope
No matter how long you've been stuck in a pattern, change is possible. I’ve witnessed people rebuild trust after deep betrayal. I’ve seen individuals find their voice after years of silence. I’ve supported people who’ve learned to truly listen to each other for the first time.
Sometimes healing happens within the relationship. Sometimes it begins with one person making changes that ripple outward. And sometimes, healing means letting go—but doing so with compassion and clarity rather than bitterness or blame.
You’re Not Alone
If you're struggling in your relationship, please know that it’s okay to reach out for help. You don’t need to have all the answers. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be willing to explore—with gentleness—what’s going on beneath the surface.
As a counsellor, my role is not to fix you or your relationship. My role is to walk alongside you, to help you understand what’s happening, and to support you in finding a path forward—one grounded in honesty, respect, and connection.
After all these years, I still believe in the resilience of the human heart. And I still believe that, with the right support, relationships—though messy, complicated, and sometimes painful—can also be one of the most powerful places for growth, healing, and love.
I can help you…there is nothing you can’t say to me ….I have walked a long path to,
Email or call me …you will feel better as we walk this journey together.
I have years of experience to share with you.